Sure, there is much I can do to express my opinion and inform them of right and wrong, but I know that trying to control them will only end up in a blubbery mess.
blubbery mess=me in tears, children in tears, no one listening to each other
They are responsible for their decisions.
They are their own person. Who am I to try to make them someone else?
I believe in consequences.
Everything leads up to a behaviour and from that behaviour a consequence occurs.
Does that make sense?
I am not going to get too behavioural here but this is really just a long way of saying that I do not force my children to eat every bite of their dinner if they choose not to eat it at that time. I do not force my children to sit at the table until their plate is clean. I do not sit at their side with a fork full of food trying to coerce them into eating it because then, um, who has the control? I do not feed my children because they wont do it themselves.
I just inform them that if they decide not to eat it, than they are not allowed to have any dessert or treats.
I also inform them that their bedtime snack will be their dinner.
Just matter of fact.
And they make the decision.