May 19, 2010

Boys and things they teach their Mom.

I have learned alot since becoming a parent.
Alot about myself.
And how little I really knew about myself before bringing little people into this world.

It kinda scares me actually.
That adults are bringing children into this world when they really don't have a clue who they are to begin with.

But anyways....

As my boys grow older and develop their intense likes and dislikes, I am realizing that I had some "expectations" for them right from the start.

My boys would love sports.
Hockey actually.
Because I like it.
And my brother played it.

So it is just "right" that my boys with some of my genes would like it too.
They were signed up for skating lessons at a ridiculously young age.
And eventually signed up to play "real" hockey.
It was going to be fun.
Waking up before the sun in the dead of winter, heading to the ice rink and spending 20 minutes getting the equipment on.
They would get out on the ice, score an obscene number of goals while their proud hockey parents watched and cheered from the icy cold seats.

That was how things were going to be for the next few years.

Umm...no.

The boys hated it.
They had no interest in it at all.
And I hated getting up at dawn in the middle of winter to go to a stupid rink.
I also hated getting their equipment on.
And my boys didn't score.
Instead they followed the pack of other kids who loved hockey or made ice angels at the other end of the rink.

Hockey just wasn't their "sport".
Neither was karate.
Or soccer.
Or baseball.

Instead the boys love horseback riding.




And dirt biking.
Lesson #27848086068 learned
Allow your children to develop their own hobbies.  Avoid the desire to influence their decisions.  They know what is fun for them and what is not.

Realization #7949075609
My boys are just like their father.  The only way I know they are mine is because I carried them, but I am beginning to wonder if they did a switcheroo in the hospital.

They are darn cute though.  I think I will keep them anyways.


7 comments:

Gigi said...

We do learn alot about ourselves once we have those kiddos. And no, they never have the interests we thought that they should (I mean WOULD) have.

Just A Mom (Call me JAM for short) said...

Yep... the older I get the more I realize the less I know. Scares me too.

Your boys are darling!

Foursons said...

They ARE cute! And dirt biking and horseback riding are awesome.

Heatherlyn said...

Actually, I think people should have children because it is the ONLY way for them to start truly understanding who they really are. :)

I've learned that I don't have as much energy as I thought I did.

I've also learned that I HATE micromanaging other people. It drains my energy like nothing else and I receive no pleasure from it whatsoever. And yet, a good deal of micromanaging seems necessary for certain kids to succeed and get the idea about what they need to do in life.

I was sort of hoping that all of my kids would enjoy reading. And they don't. None of them do yet. Some of them are very good at it, but they still don't like it.

I guess I was hoping that more of my kids would be more independent and focused and determined about what they want to do with their own lives--a little bit more like I was.

The only child I have who is really a lot like me seems to be my step-daughter. How ironic is that? And she is constantly put down by her other set of parents. It's ridiculous.

Anyway. Kids come who they are. We can learn a lot from them.

And I think horseback riding is a really fun sport!!!

BlogBaby said...

They are a couple of handsome little dudes - hockey haters and all!!

BlogBaby's BabyMama

P.S. Is is wrong that I pray my child won't like hockey?? I know...I know...and I call myself a Canadian too! Too expensive. Too early. Too cold. You know what I'm sayin'.

Jenners said...

Funny how things work out ... or don't (depending on your perspective). I was shocked my son liked pickles ... because I don't! How can that be?

But I gotta tell you, that hockey stuff sounds like a nightmare.

Otter Thomas said...

I keep telling myself I will have to let Braden do what he wants. Nobody likes baseball these days so I am preparing for the possibility that he won't like it either. As long as he doesn't choose soccer I think I will manage.

You have some good looking boys and dirt biking is awesome.